It’s been over a year and many of us are in a full-household situation. At least one adult is on a work-from-home (WFH) set up, and kids are likely home on a study-from-home / online schooling. Everyone is home, and each other’s personal space seems to be getting into each other’s faces. Friction happens, arguments ensue, moods quickly change and the cheerful family home experience isn’t so cheerful anymore. Let’s discuss why it’s even more important to create your own personal space these days.
Personal Space
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As a parent, we definitely feel the need to be there for our children. We make sure they are resilient enough given the tough times this century is throwing at them. Did you know that allowing them to have their own personal space, even at a young age, can greatly help develop a sense of self? Giving them the space to have free play and do the things they love, by themselves also allows for focus, creativity, and self-awareness. It also develops in them a sense of independence, trust, and dignity.
As parents, we probably have created a special space for them, just for them to be able to do all these: play, read, nap, enjoy a snack, draw. And our children understand this space as their own. Many times we probably sneaked a peek at them while they do their thing within their space. They know that once you step into their play area, that you’re ready to play, read..whatever, along with them. This space is where they can be themselves, and enjoy being a kid. As parents, we do know the benefits of allowing our children their own personal space.
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Why not for you?
So our question to you: Why not for you? Why not have your own personal space? And is it time to create your own?
We play many roles in life: sister, daughter, wife, mother, teacher, cook, laundry woman, vet, gardener, driver, handyman.. and so on! As we go through our day, having to be in these different roles at least once, or multi-role tasking, we get information and sensory overload. We deal with different situations every day. And this sends a stress response in us, especially if we can’t seem to resolve any. Our focus wanes, our moods change, our sense of pride and accomplishment doesn’t happen. Even our relationships get affected and may suffer. We may even take it out on food and binge or lose appetite. Loss of sleep can happen, and we wake up with brain fog and develop migraines, and our day doesn’t seem to get better. Do you get the picture?
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We’re hoping that before it leads to this, that you truly consider a time to create your own personal space. Here’s what we found on the benefits of having your own space.
3 Benefits of Your Own Space
FYFG coaches Mia and Bunny have their own spaces in their homes. Although it’s not a full room to themselves, even just a corner of a room works well. Here are the top 3 benefits they discovered on having their own space.
- Protects from Information/ sensory overload. Naturally, this leads to increased stress. Having your own space gives you calm, as you’re surrounded with things you enjoy and are pleasing to you.
- Protects from emotional distress. When you’re in a space you yourself created, the sense of identity is triggered. Your self-worth and self-awareness emerge, and you are able to face your emotions better, with confidence and with clarity. We found that diffusing essential oils in your space is very beneficial when it comes to overcoming emotional distress.
- Protects our creativity. Through our day-to-day life, we are likely to be less creative as our usual daily chores and tasks go by. We tend to go through our To-Do list like there was no tomorrow, only to find ourselves dead tired and irritable at the end of the day. Visiting our space of calm, the space that we created for ourselves to be ourselves, triggers in us a calmer mind. The more frequently we stay in our own space, the more we improve our focus, and creativity happens. Finding solutions is one manifestation of creativity.
How to Create Your Own Space
Here are Coach Mia’s top tips in creating your own ME- SPACE.
For you to get your ME-TIME at least 2x a day in order, you will need a space, that you can “ESCAPE TO.” This is crucial especially if you do not live alone and have to manage the household. Creating YOUR SPACE is not selfish. It is in fact a sign that you care and want to fully be present and the best that you have when you attend to something. Hence your ME-SPACE is your re-charge zone so you need to make it work for you. Here are my Top Musts when creating that space.
Imagine if
So why create your own personal space? In a nutshell: To Protect Your Mental Wellbeing. We won’t lead you to imagine a life that’s busy, filled with chores, and tasks and duties of daily life. We already live it. But we invite you to imagine a life exactly that. But with you breezing through it with the smile, the confidence, and the FIERCEness of the woman you are. And what’s your secret? You’re very own personal space. You’re Me-Space, where you get to re-focus, re-energize, re-collect, re-create, so you can take on life FIERCELY!
Do You Want To Know How Your Work From Home Situation can be productive? Read How To Create Your Energy Workspace by one of our SHE IS FIERCE Influencers —Martine De Luna.
